7 Ways to Soothe your Shyness

Shy people instinctively know that they are missing out. Shyness equals lost opportunities, less pleasure and fewer social connections. Shyness can be crippling but there are tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.

When I was fifteen I was shy. I recall an attractive girl attempting to engage me in conversation. My shyness made me focus on me instead of her. I heard my own voice but not hers and I thought about what I was trying to say instead of what she was trying to say.

The formula for shyness is "too much focus on the self" plus anxiety. To make it even more unpleasant, sometimes when you are feeling shy you experience physical sensations which 'hijack' your calm logical self.

My pulse raced, my mouth dried up and I felt like the village idiot! I couldn't think what to say so I said nothing apart from making barely audible grunting noises! Cary Grant eat your heart out! When I detected pity in her eyes (or was it contempt, or boredom) I mumbled my excuse and got out of there. I hated being shy and was determined to change it.

How shyness is developed and maintained

Shyness really is a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome shyness you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain conversational skills. In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing when young simply condition the sufferer to respond to social events with fear, instead of excitement and pleasure.

Relaxed socializing is so pleasurable, not to say productive, but it is an advantage denied to many until they learn to relax. To start reducing your own shyness, I want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start to put them into practice:

1) Think about the way you feel and behave around familiar people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. It's that feeling transferred to new people and situations that equates to your emerging social confidence.

2) Focus your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can think a little bit about how you are coming across, but if all your focus is on your own words and feelings then you might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might live, make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to talk about, it also 'dilutes' social anxiety leaving you feeling calmer.

3) Ask people open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a 'yes'/'no' response such as 'What do you like about this place?' rather than: 'Do you like this place?' Once they've answered use 'add-on' questions connected to the first such as: 'What other places do you like in this city.?' Next you can express your views. This is a great way to get the conversation going. If the conversation doesn't 'take' then no matter, you've done your bit.

4) Stop trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever had an imaginary picture in your mind of a holiday destination only to arrive and find the reality is different from the way you had imagined? That's how reliable imagination is. Stop imagining what others think. I do lots of public speaking and I've long since stopped trying to second guess what others think of me - it's just too painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a lot more to do with who they are than who you are.

5) Stop using 'all or nothing' thinking. The 'completely this/completely that' style of thought occurs when you are emotional. People who are depressed, angry or anxious see reality in terms of differing extremes, simplistic all or nothing terms. An angry person is 'right' and you are 'wrong'; the depressed person feels like a 'failure' while others are a 'success'. In reality, life is composed of infinite gray areas. So stop fearing that you might say the 'wrong' thing! Or that people will 'hate' you. Once you start to relax more socially you'll notice much less black or white thinking because anxiety actually causes you to think in all or nothing terms.

6) Take your time. You don't have to blurt things out. Ask questions and if questions are asked of you can take time to consider your response (within reason). Don't just blurt out what you think might be the 'right' answer. A slow answer is a relaxed answer.

7) Finally, use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is the quickest way to change your instinctive/emotional response to any situation. Only think about meeting others when your mind and body is relaxed. This conditions you to associate relaxation with being around new people. In fact you'll find that when you relax deeply enough often enough whilst hypnotically rehearsing being comfortable around others you'll reach the point where you just can't be shy any more! This is what I call a 'happy inability!'

I now love meeting new people and suspect that my current social confidence would be unrecognizable to my fifteen year old self.

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Article by Mark Tyrrell of Hypnosis Downloads.com.

Are You Set for a Bumper Goal Year in 2009?

Have You Set Your Goals for your best year ever in 2009?

I ask, as I can state that statistically, all people who are multi millionaires have a set of goals, written down!

This is the crux of the issue. Your goals need to be written down, to have maximum effect.

I have met people who have said they have them in their mind, but my experience has proven that goals written down, make much more sense, and almost 'tell' the universe to be more productive for you.

An example is listed on my positive relaxation website at http://www.positive-relaxation.com/goalsettingrelax.html

This situation happened to me in the years of 1999 to 2000.

A friend of mine requested if I would be interested to move to the east coast of Australia, (I was living on the west), and I said no, as I was happy in the west.

My friend was persistant with me (another trait of great success), and he suggested I make a point of noting down a date to come to the east.

I was not very convnced at the time, and made a note in my diary for some time in the future.

I then forgot about it.

However, the universe had other ideas, and to cut a long story short, I arrived in the east coast of Australia some time after this event.

Three days after my arrival, I found an entry in my diary that said "prepare to consider coming to Sydney.

This was one incredible example of the powers of goal setting.

See where it will take you in 2009 and beyond?


Take action today.

Click the link below to act, and move your life forward.

A journey of a thousand miles starts with one footstep!


http://www.positive-relaxation.com/goalsettingrelax.html

Better and Greater Relaxation, with a focused and organised Financial plan!

What do I mean here?

Quite simple.

When our Financial House is in order, we are in order...


Let me expand on this.

Quite simply, it is easier for us to relax, when we are organised, and know where we are.

The person who has organised receipts, and a regular savings plan, and knows where they are, will generally be both wealthier, as well as more relaxed, due to 'knowing' their position.

I am a great beleiver in getting organised, and making a point of always 'paying' ourselves first, after we receive an income, as out over all success financially, (wich assists in a more relaxed existence, due to less stress about money) is an important step.

More information can be found on my website on wealth at http://www.medallionmarketingteam.com/rich.html




I know that what I say sounds very simple, but applying this pronciple will definitively solve many of your stresses.

It is not a complete solution of itself for total relief, but certainly a big step in less worry financially.


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Take a Breather with Audio fro Positive Relaxation

Relaxation is an Integral Part of Our Lives for Focus, and Serenity

Relaxation is an integral part of our lives- it is an opportunity to rejuvenate after a long day, a time to feel at one with the world.



Relaxation with the right audio is something that can positive affect us all.

I have often found that relaxing with some baroque music in the background, or even using specially recorded, intended relaxation material is very sooting.

I have provided a long list on the site at http://www.positive-relaxation.com/ and information on the different types of audio available, as well as links to obtaining these audios.

With the new year coming, and the stress that many of us can experience in the lead up, let's take a break, and bounce forward to the next step.

All the best from Martin at http://www.positive-relaxation.com/

Relaxation with Soothing Music- Manifestation Meditation

Relaxation is an integral part of our lives- it is an opportunity to rejuvenate after a long day, a time to feel at one with the world.

Relaxation with the right audio is a rebalancing opportunity, and a wonderful and rich experience.

More information is available on www.positive-relaxation.com , and in particular, there is a new setion on soothing music for the soul, and it is a highly recommended area to investigate for further information.

An example is a link to an area for their CD's, like 'When it;s time to let go".

All the best

Martin

Review of the Great Tase, No Pain Product

REVIEW OF GREAT TASTE NO PAIN



With more than 1 out of 3 adults in the US (70 million) taking OTC or prescription pills for digestive disorders and the pain associated with them, as a nation, we have serious health problems.

And we're spreading our problems around the world. What most people are frustrated with is that even if they eat how most health professionals consider to be healthy, a large percentage of people STILL experience digestive problems.

And so most people resort to drugs, surgery or eating bland foods. Or they just continue to suffer.

That's why the Great Taste No Pain System was developed -- to help slash some of the $42 billion dollars spent on those pills in the US alone.

This simple eating system is designed to dramatically reduce the acid pH measure in a person's entire body -- not just in the stomach.

It does so by increasing the ratio of alkaline forming foods eaten and by showing you how to combine foods in a way that radically decreases the amount of acid digestive juices in the stomach and small intestines required to break down foods.

With me so far? Hope so, because this is important stuff.One of the primary components of the Great Taste No Pain System is the science of food combining, which was first introduced into the US in 1911 by Dr. William Hay, a New York surgeon who used it to cure his Bright's Disease, a kidney disease which was often fatal at that time.

In fact, among the many thousands of lives it claimed was Teddy Roosevelt's first wife, who died of Bright's Disease at just 22 years of age.

A basic knowledge of Junior High chemistry is all it takes to see the logic behind this science: Mixing foods that require alkaline digestive enzymes with foods that require acid digestive enzymes slows and can even stop the digestive process.

It can and does delay digestion by as much as 10 hours and more. This is incredibly bad for the body.

The Great Taste No Pain system alleviates this problem, speeding food through your body, allowing it to absorb nutrients from foods at a much higher level.

In addition, one of the manuals in the Great Taste No Pain system, 'Foods That Create Acid, Foods That Take It Away,' is as clear as I've ever seen this data presented. Follow this simple guide and your body will use a minimum of energy in the digestion process, which leaves more energy for healing and other daily functions your body carries out.

This is a timely set of guides, because with our society's addiction to the convenience of processed foods, in many respects our health challenges are far worse than they were in 1911.

Great Taste No Pain author, Sherry Brescia, was a former Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) sufferer herself.

In fact, in 1991, she spent 7 days in the hospital with bacterial colitis. As a health insurance researcher and Chief Underwriter, she was able to research the benefits of an alkaline- balanced body and over the next 15 years perfected the system she now calls Great Taste No Pain.

She meshed a number of philosophies proven to help alkalize the body to create this simple system that anyone can follow regardless of where they are or what food choices they have available to them.


**************************What I Like:**************************

Taste:

Unlike most restrictive diets, Great Taste No Pain cannot actually be called a diet, because it allows you to eat even great volumes of luscious, delicious food as long as you combine it according to a few simple guidelines.

It truly requires very little willpower.


Perhaps the greatest news for people who love to eat is that the 176 page recipe book in the system is stuffed with breakfasts, lunches, dinners and snacks that are unbelievably tasty.

No rabbit food.

Gourmet all the way, yet the meals (if you like to cook) only take between 15 and 30 minutes of prep time and make tons of yummy leftovers.

So you can throw away the belief that you can't eat healthy on a super-busy schedule. Speed: I love that you don't have to read 300+ pages before learning what to do.

In the first guide, 'How To End Stomach Pain Forever, Even If Your MD says, "No Way,"' it provides a brief background on the science and then quickly moves onto the step-by-step 'how to.'

I really love that.

Simplicity:

The second Guide in the GTNP System is 'What To Eat With What.'

This is a massive compilation.

Every kind of food that you could possibly put in your mouth is listed, along with the corresponding foods that combine with it for easy comfortable digestion, and those foods that don't.

This guide is so complete and so easy to follow, if you screw this up, it's back to pre-school for you.

More Simplicity:

Traveling is the one thing that can ruin even the healthiest eaters.

But in Great Taste No Pain, Sherry gives you a 'Pocket Guide For Pain-Free Dining Out.'

This tool is phenomenal.

You can store this little baby with your credit cards and, until you understand what combines with what, all you have to do is pull out your pocket guide and quickly note the rule, so you can eat andenjoy the rest of your day, pain-free.

Would you believe that you could eat McDonald's food and not suffer gassiness and reflux?

Now you can!

Meat:

While meat is not something people with digestive issues usually tolerate well on a daily basis (hence the daily pain), the problem isn't so much the meat as it is what you eat with the meat.

That is why each of the Guides in the system, including the recipe book, lists every possible food you can combine with meats without suffering.

Most people will suddenly be able to eat beef, chicken, fish, pork, turkey, venison and any other type of meat they want.

As long as you combine it right... no pain at all!

And broccoli, lettuce, cucumbers and other veggies that can create havoc suddenly will not.

That I love.Fruit: Ask anyone that suffers stomach problems about fruit and you'll hear horror stories.

So sadly, the most perfect food on the planet is shunned by a huge part of our world's population.

No longer.

Because you will soon learn why fruit causes you trouble and how to easily change that.

You CAN eat fruit again, even if it now makes you turn blue!

It's true!

While each Guide in the system is detailed and complete, they are "dumbed down" in the clearest language possible.

So I don't doubt Sherry's claim that any 11 year old could teach it.

This I really love.

**************************Things To Watch For:**************************

The one thing you want to be careful of is that once you start eating as prescribed in Great Taste No Pain, you could quickly begin to feel all powerful.

You might start to think you are "cured" of your digestive problems since they went away so fast and since you have so much extra energy.

That would be a mistake.

Because technically there is no "cure" for most digestive problem, because technically they are not diseases at all.

They are maladies brought on by eating the wrong foods and by eating them in the wrong combinations.

So the principles in Great Taste No Pain is not a "cure," since people with sensitive stomachs will always be sensitive.

GTNP is merely a way to make all symptoms go away forever and give you a lot more energy.

For example, let's say you've got it bad and have Diverticulitis or Crohn's.

Great Taste No Pain can help you get rid of your symptoms very quickly.

But a year later, if you start eating like you used to, guess what? Yep, the symptoms will come back. You see, the principles that Great Taste No Pain is based on are sound.

They work for everyone.

But if you think that because you've been symptom-free for a long time, you've been "cured," think again.
Go against these principles of easy digestion, and the problem can come back with a vengeance.

Remember, good health comes from living a healthy lifestyle, not a"do it once and you're fixed" approach.

Another thing you might want to be prepared for is that since Great Taste No Pain cleanses your digestive tract, initially you could get a little diarrhea.

If you experience constipation on a fairly regular basis, you might get a little "looseness" at first, but it will end soon.

Also, due to the detoxing going on, you might get a runny nose or get some other cold-like symptoms at first.

It's nothing to worry about.

If you do, while it might not be fun, it does mean it's working.

It means your body is becoming purer and the toxins are leaving. And that is a very good thing.


**************************Conclusion:**************************


When I began following the system, I personally was amazed at the amount of energy I had, even late into the evening.

I had no discomfort, no bloating, I didn't feel the need to eat again within an hour and no need for caffeine after meals.

Professionally and personally, my strong recommendation is that for anyone who wants more energy, sounder and longer sleep, migraine headaches to stop almost immediately, pain from gastritis and acid reflux to stop almost instantly, and the pain of digestive problems to stop or be reduced dramatically, get over to:-

http://www.greattastenopain.com/cmdt.asp?id=691692&t=374931

now and get the whole system.

You will be thrilled. And frankly, it won't take a full day for most people to feel a major difference in their bodies.

Often it just takes one meal.

After you have been following it for a week or more, feel free to let me know how you like it.

I personally believe that anyone who adopts this simple, enjoyable food combining method will reap gigantic health benefits.

So if that is what you are looking for, get overto -

http://www.greattastenopain.com/cmdt.asp?id=691692&t=374931

and get started today.

All my best,


Martin Cohn

Relax with the Silva Method

Are you finding you have difficulty Remembering things?

Are you stressed more than usual?

These are all tytpical symptoms of our busy, hectic, and fast paced lives.

However, I can strongly recommend the benefits of the Silva Method- a course designed to help you and your mind deal better with stress, and our often hectic lives.

I have found that it is not the issue of stress, but rather the issue of the way we handle stress.

These are the areas where we can do a lot of work to help ourselves.

I am really happy with my results, at being calmer, and more productive.

That is a big one for me.

For more information, and to start feeling better and happier, with many more benefits, hop to the Silva Page now!

The Value of Relaxing, as Well as Improving Ourselves

The Silva Method

I wanted to briefly mention my success with the Silva Method, and explain my reasons for wanting you to take a look.

I have found that more and more in these very busy times, we need to be able to understand ways to ensure we are not overcome by stress.

The Relaxation techniques taught by the Silva Method are second-to-none, and very beneficial, particularly after a little, daily practice.

I genuinely recommend that using these methods will assist you in dealing with the stress of our daily lives.

I am sure you are well aware that the more we are faced with challenges, some of us can begin to feel over whelmed.

I can assure you, as per the video below, that the Silva Method Works.






The Silva Method, has most of all, assisted me to be able to deal better with daily stresses, and this, in its own right, is a tremendously valuable tool.

In addition, however, I have been able to mitivate myself to literally reach for the stars, and do what it takes to get things done, rather than simply amble along on a daily, drudge.

You see, the Silva Method as hassisted me to succeed better, and be more motivated, and successful in every endeavour.

For more information, and a demonstration, see http://www.medallionmarketingteam.com


The demonstration is free, and a great introduction to the program.


Martin

The Value of Relaxing, as Well as Improving Ourelves

Relaxation in a Busy, and Stressful World.

Yes, it is possible to relax in this busy, and seemingly, for many people, more stressful world.

We are all subject to pressures of daily living, like increased fuel prices, interest rates, and so on and on.

For many of us, these added pressures don't really help us to relax, and make it more and more difficult, as we are not always able to still our minds.

I have been fortunate to come across a great programme by Jose Silva, and I am giving away a no-charge demonstration of this programme to all my visitors, who visit my site on the Silva Method.

This programme has given me a tremendous boost, in terms of being able to deal with stress more effectively.

We are all subject to stressful situations, and complications in our plans from time to time.

The secret is in managing this stress, rather than simply not having any in the first place.

When we realise this, we are already in a much better position to deal with the best way to solve these problems.

For more information, see my Silva Demonstration Site.

All the best,

Martin

The Benefits of the Silva Method

I wanted to mention the Silva Development Method, available on the Medallion Marketing Team site.

The benefits of the Silva system are about being more focused, and feeling you're able to be more proactive, and less procrastinational.

I realise this may seem a mouthful, but at the end of the day, we're about helping you to be your very best.

I have included the option of a free report, and demonstration of the Silva System.

For more information, click here to be directed to the free demonstration page.

This is a time limited offer, and remember the free updates too!

Be the best you can be


Martin

The Silva Technique of Relaxation

Have you heard about Jose Silva's techniques?

The Silva Method was a huge program in the 70's and 80's… and it's making a big come back.

Mr. Silva's daughter, Laura, has created an incredible new system that is changing millions of lives, including mine.
I've signed up and think you should check it out. I really think you could get a lot out of it.

Tell me what you think!

Go here to check it out:

Sincerely,


Martin


PS - This has been great for me and could be greatfor you as well. Check it out:

Positive Relaxation is On You Tube Now!

Hi there again from Martin at Positive Relaxation.

We are now broadcasting on YouTube, and are happy to provide this enhanced service for you.

We look forward to your comments, and feedback.

All the best.

To see us, and link to us, see You Tube Positive Relaxation.

Zen and Relaxation

I like to apply the concepts of zen relaxation when I want to become more aware of my body, and feel a sense of relaxation sweeping through me.
This can be done at anytime, but I prefer doing this before bed time. One way is to be lying down, and having your eyes closed.
Feel, and become conscious of each part of your body. It’s important not to specifically attempt to relax your body parts- you are just thinking about them consciously.
You will also be feeling, and concentrating on your different body senses, such as what you may be hearing, and feeling.
Doing this will help you become more in tune with your body, and feel it more keenly.
It is a great way to ultimately lead you to more relaxed state.
Should you fall asleep, you will rise to be more relaxed and energized than you would otherwise have been.
I realize this may seem unbelievable to some people, but it genuinely works.
As I mentioned earlier, applying zen to your daily activities will make a big difference to the way you feel about things.
Let us take another example.
It is important to drink a lot of water- typically one and a half to two liters a day.
With practice, it becomes quite easy, and it is the way to help your body eliminate toxins, and waste, as well as a way to revitalize your body’s cells.
It is also a great way to help with weight management, as it has been proven to assist in this regard.
I have also included a link to a Zen website where items for your home can be purchased.
I particularly find the alarm clocks are a great idea, as I find it much more pleasant to awake to a gentle alarm, rather than the 'typical' clock radio buzzer that is very harsh.
It is also a wonderful way to awake, if you are working in a stressful environment, such as an emergency room in a hospital, where stress can be a little higher than normal.

For more information, see http://www.positive-relaxation.com/zen.html

Relaxing and Manifesting

Good day again from Martin,

As this is a new year, I wanted to wish you all the very best, and further, to mention an important of over all relaxation.

That is this- we all need to always be gratefull for all we have, and also say thanks, as if we already have it.

I say this, as this is a law of the universe that has proven itself many times over, and I wanted to reiterate it here.

"Thank you for the price of mind I am receiving right now."

You are expressing in advance what is so important to bring that which you want into you life.

For more information, see the report at:

http://www.positive-relaxation.com/support-files/mrtincohn-manifest.pdf


Be the best you can be!

Relaxation and Manifestation

Hi there again.

Happy New Year, and may 2008 be all you want, and thn some!

I wanted to start the year by helping you all manifest the best you can for 2008, and am giving away a free eBook as part of this blog.

The Manifestation book is all about establishing the right mindset so you can bring all you want into your life.

For this free gift, enter here to download the manifestation handbook.